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Giving up expectations allows you to find the loved ones that are still there. (Pg. 9)

Don't assume that your loved one is being manipulative or deceptive (Pg. 13 & 23)

"NO" is a negative message that devalues their thoughts and wishes. (Pg. 13)

They have trouble living in your reality, but you CAN live in theirs. (Pg. 13)

Refrain from challenging your loved one with "Don't You Remember?" (Pg. 28)

Help your loved one to save face. (Pg. 20)

They are who they are, they do not have the ability to de different. (Pg. 23 & 24)

If something is important to them, let them know it's important to you. (Pg. 28)

Acknowledge that what they are thinking has value. (Pg. 28)

"Tell me about....." can elicit the good memory out of a sad one. (Pg. 28)

Always acknowledge your loved ones feelings. (Pg. 29)

Help them laugh at things they think are funny. (Pg. 29)

Take time to write down things that are important to your loved one. (Pg. 32-45)

Before you visit review your workbook and select a few topics. (Pg. 46)

Start conversations with the purpose "I was thinking about..." (Pg. 47)

Five senses provide personal information that turn into conversations. (Pg. 47-50)

Short visits with content conversations win over long "dutiful" visits. (Pg. 51)

Leaving might cause confusion for your loved one. (Pg. 53)

Meaningful personal belongings provide conversation material. (Pg. 52)

Reward yourself for each successful conversation and take care of you! (Pg. 54)